I’ve had to struggle quite a lot in life. My mother died when I was 20 and that seemed to fracture our family. I don’t think we ever really recovered and I’ve learned to be self-sufficient as a result. I wish mum could have seen the woman I’ve become. I think sometimes I step outside myself and try to see me as she would see me. I’m older than she was now and it feels like new uncharted territory because there’s no one to ask.
I’ve got three grown-up daughters and brought them up mostly on my own after a divorce. We came out of that with nothing, not a penny, and it was down to me to support us so I did whatever work I could and somehow kept us going. I think at one point I was doing five different jobs but it meant that I was there when they needed me and we were happy. I’m a do-er not a panicker. If there’s a problem it gets dealt with, although I find I’ve even less patience with idiots now!
On a practical level I see a few crow’s feet, a loopy smile and good teeth. I thank my grandmother for my lack of wrinkles and my parents for making me wear a dental brace. I see there’s a spot on my chin, which is impressive for a woman pushing 60. Sometimes I look at myself and think I probably need to sleep for a week but I’d rather be challenged than bored. I’ve grown to like the person I see looking back at me. She can be a bit stroppy and often gets angry about things she believes are wrong or unfair but her heart’s in the right place and she thinks a lot and deeply. You can see that from the way she looks back at you.